Other Blogs

Tumblr is awesome. Not only is it quick and easy but because you end up following other Tumblr blogs you like it is like a constant and infinite stream of pictures picked out just for you. All you have to do is scroll.

The downside ob Tumblr is that it is not great for long written entries. More often than not it gets missed in the stream of hot pictures. That is why I also follow Blogger blogs. Even had one of my own at one point that I may start again someday.

I’m obviously into the whole cuckold/hotwife/femdom world and I really enjoy reading how other real couples enjoy and explore the lifestyle. One of my old favorites is Hotwifing Exposed by Ben and Annabel I would highly suggest reading it.

Another I came across more recently and with much more of a cuckold/femdom/sissy slant is All Mine. I great account of the life of three people Suzzane the dom, sissy tammy her husband, and their lover Jay and how their relationships have evolved over time.

For an interesting twist on the cuckolding femdom life I would suggest reading Bi and Large. A woman that dominates and cuckolds her husband with a woman. She recounts her struggles coming to terms with not only being bi but also trying to balance being a dom and a sub at the same time.

Of course Blogger isn’t the only place that has hot stories by real couples there also a few people I follow on forms that are prolific posters. The one that I have been returning to for a while is SoonToBe a cuckold couple that has told their story from the very start through to their experiences with three different lovers on the Cuckolds.com forums.

If anyone has cuckold, hotwife, or femdom blogs by real couples that they follow and enjoy please do share. I really like when the blog is written by both members of the couple, as the different perspectives given is great at understanding the emotions they go through on their journey, but it is not necessary. As long as the blog seems realistic and relates the emotions that the couple goes though during their experiences then that is enough for me. Oh, and bonus points if they recount how they started into the lifestyle.

Thanks in advance. :)

Calling all Lifestyle Blogs!

Hello everyone, as you may have noted in my last entry I am on Tumblr now and it is great (think a mix between Blogger and Twitter). The only problem is there is a lack of lifestyle blogs. So, if you are swingers, hotwives, cuckolds, dominatrixes or anything in between and you are on Tumblr then give us your link. If not then why don't you join? I'm sure you will find something you like on there.

http://ponderingdesire.tumblr.com

19 and Moving

PONDERING:
After getting all those old posts out of the way I had all this ambition to start blogging regularly again. I was going to write all about a discussion Desire and I had about our sexuality, how we both felt it had progressed over the last few years and where we each saw it going. I started a post, left it in draft, and there it just sat, for weeks.

So, lately I have been feeling that this blog no longer suits how I want to share and contribute to the exploration of sexuality online. I am no longer really motivated to write long posts, and while I had hoped Desire would post here as well she was never as in to it as I was. While that is totally fine and her choice now that I have lost steam the blog has really languished.

I have found most of what I have been doing lately is sharing links and pictures anyway and Twitter and Tumbler suit that much better. So from now on I will just be putting things on Tumblr or Twitter.

Thanks for following so far and hope you continue to follow us to Tumblr,
Pondering + Desire

PS. Just wanted to share one thing that did come out of our conversation was the idea that each month we would take turns sharing something that we found most sexually exiting from the internet that month. Thus, I don't inundate Desire with links all the time and she gets to explore her sexuality online a bit more. It just so happens we chose to start doing this on the 19th of the month and has hence forth been know as "our 19".

Links:
Once again our new Tumblr blog.
And out Twitter account.

Formspring and a Domcom?

I wonder if we should set up a Form Spring like Voluptuous Val has? Anyone what do ask us anything?
VoluptousVal's Formspring

Check out this cool comic by a dominatrix in LA:
Nicbuxom's Comic

I think I'm back

PONDERING:
Ok so I have just pumped out a bunch of posts that have been sitting in my draft section for about 10 months. Sorry about that but it has been a very busy year. When I thought about writing in this blog I would either just jot down a few links and notes or just not bother because there were so many drafts I had then I felt I had to finish but didn't really feel like finishing. Well today I finally got around to it and instead of just deleting the old drafts I have just quickly banged them out as there were a few good links in there. So sorry if they were not as thoughtful as other posts but there you have it. I think I will move away from my old format of keeping a bunch of posts in drafts because it takes away from the spontaneity and I have to try to remember the headspace I was in at the time that I started the post, and trying to recreate it. Not always fun. So from now on I am going to keep a draft of links, posting shorter entries but hopefully more frequent then 10 months apart. :)

Blogs

PONDERING:
I just wanted to share a few blogs that I have discovered. While I have not had the time to read through them the bits and pieces I haver read have been quite interesting.

The first one is The Edge of Vanilla and it is a blog that not only, right up my ally, subject wise but also quite cute and funny at times. For example they had posted about the Ashley Madison site (the site that facilitates people wanting to have an affair) and how they have the second highest number of women signing up the day after mothers day. On this site they also blogged about the ridiculousness that is the mainstream media. How a Lane Bryant tried to air an ad on TV that was basically rejected because the model wasn't stick thin.

Let me say this now. A LOT OF MEN LIKE WOMEN WITH CURVES! Which brings me to my next two blogs.

I don't even think I was looking for porn when I cam across April Flores. I happened across an article about her for Bizarre magazine (of which she was on the cover). She is a famous adult movie star that also happens to be plus sized and very outspoken about loving her curves. I always think it is fantastic when voluptuous women can really embrace their curves and sexuality when so much media in this society say they shouldn't. Hopefully her openness and enjoyment of sexuality will be an inspiration to many women. You can check out her blog here.

Finally I came across a blog with the following description:
The writings of a PhD student, Excessive Ponderer, Bibliophile, Culture-Obsessed, Feminist, who is also an Activist.
I haven't had a chance to read it but my interest is piqued.

Insatiable Wives Book

PONDERING:
I came across this blog via Mrs. Emma Kelly's blog ... I think. Anyway it is a blog for a book all about the hotwife/cuckold lifestyle written by a clinical psychologist! It is called Insatiable Wives, Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them and I think I will have to pick it up sometime as it would be an interesting read. I'm sure a lot of it I will have read before but the fact that it is written by a psychologist and outsider might give it a unique perspective. Don't know if Desire would read the book as she is not big on reading non-fiction but who knows. Have any of you read it? If so what did you think?

Pondering's List

PONDERING:
So I have FINALLY gotten around to finishing my list. It is might be quite tame for some of you but you have to remember we are a real couple and we are just starting out on this adventure. Here is the list in no particular order:

1. Write a post on this blog.
2. Find a cuckolding/hotwifing story she likes online and show it to me telling me which parts she likes.
3. Chatting to people online about cuckolding and hotwifing.
4. Finding porn pictures that she finds hot.
5. Going out without underwear, maybe "accidentally" flashing.
6. Anal
7. Queening
8. Swallow
9. Taking one of the toys
10. Flirting with a guy at a bar
11. Dirty dancing with a guy or guys at a bar
12. Flashing
13. Nude Beach
14. Voyeur Swinger Club

Now Desire's turn? We will see.

Queening

PONDERING:
I've heard of queening before and I quite like the idea. I would enjoy it if Desire would on a day to day basis command me to service her needs with my mouth as she ether just enjoyed the sensation by itself or enjoyed it while doing other things. A queening throne would be great for this but I suppose a regular stool would do the trick too.

I found a couple of interesting sites about queening providing a bit of 'history' about queening. I'm not sure how accurate the 'history' is but it doesn't really matter it is a good read anyway. If any of our readers are historians and can verify these accounts I would be interested to hear about it.

I too like this person j2blynn on cuckolds.com find the thought of eating out my wife's cream pie highly arousing, be it my own cum or a lovers. The problem is like j2blynn as soon as I cum I lose my nerve. Someday I will just go for it (or perhaps Desire will make me). I'm sure we could both get a lot of milage out of it.

Back into the full Swing or Cuck of things

PONDERING:
Well after my little crisis of identity I now have fallen back into full cuck mode. I mean still do find other women very attractive and Desire knows this, I'm sure she will find a fun way to use this to her advantage during out play from time to time. In fact Desire has me back on probation (see: not being aloud to play with myself) and I'm loving it! I am once again completely obsessed with cuckolding and the fantasy of Desire cuckolding me. So for now this blog continues on its original path.